Lessons from a Love Letter

Romance always fascinates me. Whether it is in real life or a story, I am a lover of true love.  Here is a love letter written by a student of class 6 to his Ex. Girlfriend from the same class (Real incident).

 “Please accept love and best regards from the deepest core of my heart. Here I am longing to meet you. I hope and pray that one day we will surely meet. Wish you all the best for everything you do in life. I hope you have done well in your exam. Take care and keep smiling- X.B.F”

What do you feel about this letter? Certainly, you all will feel differently about it. One may have read it with appreciation, another with anguish etc. However, I do not wish to go in to the negative aspects of this incident at this juncture. I hope highlighting of few lessons that we could learn from the writings of an 11 year old boy would be more appropriate at this moment.

It is a common practice among adults to involve in mudslinging when relationships go sour. Even courts become battle fields in divorce cases for many couples and they seldom think about the innocent children who bear the brunt of the conflicts. But it is amazing to see that not a single word of hatred is expressed by the young boy. In fact he happily extends his best wishes to the girl for whatever she does in her future life.

I am happy to see his positive attitude and outlook towards life. Even though he became her ‘Ex-Boy Friend’, he still looks forward to meet her someday. Most of us, matured adults, have lost the positive attitude that the boy possesses in the murky sea of egoism. What a wonderful world it would be if we could shed the heavy ego we carry on our shoulder and have positive and cheerful attitude in our life?

The child who wrote this letter studies in a school where most of the students come from socially, economically and educationally backward families. The general academic performance of these students is average and below average. But I am surprised by the beauty and simplicity of the language used by the young boy in expressing his feelings to his beloved. This clearly shows that every child can perform well if they are properly motivated, and it is our duty to motivate them to learn the academic subjects with interest and curiosity.

It’s My Life Not Yours!

Few months back an engineer from Tamilnadu went missing and his dead body was later found near a bush in a riverside. His wife of five months, a final year M.B.B.S student, whom he married against the wishes of her parents’, lodged a complaint against her family sensing a foul play. After a week, the police arrested her father and brother with enough evidence, to which they eventually confessed. One can imagine the plight of the poor girl who lost her loving husband within 5 months of married life and now testifying against her own father and brother.

In those days, most of the people stayed in their own village and served in nearby localities. So, the character of a person was well known to everyone. But in today’s modern life, the system of arranged marriage seems to be odd and innumerable couples are living fake lives for the sake of others. I am unable to comprehend why do parents insist that their children have no right to marry a person of their choice? Don’t they have faith in the choice of their children?

In an arranged marriage, one might luckily get a likeminded partner but that's not the case in every arranged marriage. Many times people end up with partners who are a total contradiction to their expectations, and thereby resulting in a superficial relationship or failed marriages. And in such cases one can only imagine the horror of sharing a life with a complete stranger and feel the pangs of a broken marriage, a broken family...and the innocent lives that it shatters.

Every individual must have the liberty to choose his/her own partner; after all, it is the individual who will spend the rest of his/her life with the person he/she chooses. Life is too short to mess it up with a wrong partner as one cannot go for trial and error method in marriages.